Ahhh….love is in the air.
Every store I go into there’s evidence that shows February is the month of love.
From the pink and red hearts dangling from the ceiling to the aisles loaded down with assortments of chocolate, I’m constantly reminded that Valentine’s Day is arriving soon.
While I appreciate this holiday, I’m also wanting to find the true source of love this month. Rather than placing all my hopes in people and gifts, I want to be grounded in the truth of where true love comes from.
Experience has taught me that it doesn’t come from material things, successes, positions or even other people.
Why is this important to know?
Material things never satisfy, but only leave me craving more.
Successes and positions build me up for a moment, but at the first sign of failure I come tumbling down like a ton of bricks.
People aren’t perfect. If I depend on them as my sole source of love, I will, at some point, be let down.
If I want to feel completely loved and love those around me better, I have to be filled with a love that overflows.Only God can provide the kind of love that fills up and spills over. Click To Tweet
There was a time in my life when I depended on my husband to be that kind of love.
I expected him to be my happiness, my joy, my source of love whenever I needed it.
I expected him to be God.
It was devastating. Not just to me, but to my marriage.
I always felt disappointed and he never felt like he did enough. When he let me down, I tried to gain it from jobs and positions.
Another let down.
I was searching for love and fulfillment, but in all the wrong places.
Many of us get stuck searching. We rely on various things in the world to fill voids only God was meant to fill.
Here’s the truth that eventually surfaced in my life:
Spouses are not designed to be our primary source of love and fulfillment.
That’s God’s role.
Do we appreciate the love and adoration that comes from our spouse? Of course. God even tells them to love us as Christ loves the church. (Ephesians 5:25). But relying on them to be our source will always end in disappointment and cause friction in marriage. It places expectations on our spouses that they can never live up to.
And that job, that house, that position?
It never fulfills. We can have dreams and goals to accomplish these things, but they will never be bring complete satisfaction.
So how do we make God our primary source for love? How can we receive the love that He longs to give us?
3 Ways to Find Fulfillment in God’s Love
Spend Time with Him
All relationships require time. If we never spent time with our husbands, we wouldn’t have a successful marriage. If we want an abundant, awesome relationship with God we have to spend time with Him. I prefer to have touch points throughout the day with Him. Don’t get me wrong, spending time with Him in the morning is amazing. It provides a solid foundation for the rest of my day. However, just like my gas tank gets empty the longer I drive, my spiritual tank gets empty as I engage in life every day. I need a fill up throughout the day. I love being able to bring each issue, frustration and even victories to Him throughout the day. The more time I spend with Him, the more I feel loved by Him.
Rely on Him
I can get into the habit of bringing all my problems to my husband. Although he does love helping me solve them, it can be draining for him as well. Many times I go to him before I go to God. Not only does this cause strain on my marriage, but it causes distress in my soul. I expect him to be able to understand what I’m feeling when I can’t put it into words. Yet when I rely on God and go to Him first, I’m able to properly process out some of the lies and replace them with truths before throwing them on my husband. It makes for a much more palatable conversation for both of us. My husband feels like he is still able to help, but he’s not feeling the brunt of all my emotions. When I rely on God for even the smallest of things, I begin to rely on Him for the bigger things, including love.
There is something amazing about worshipping God. Although I don’t completely understand it, I know that when I do it I enter His Presence. In His Presence is fullness of joy and an abundance of love. The minute I turn on worship, it’s as if I can lay down all my burdens and pick up His love. 1 Peter 4:8 says this: “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” When we chose Jesus as our Lord, we were reconciled to the Father. His love covered all of our sins. I think that is what happens when I worship as well. His presence is so full of love that any sin, disappointment, or unworthy feelings are covered by His perfect love.
Who or what are you depending on as your primary source of love? I truly believe God is drawing us closer in to receive His love. In a world that pulls at us and demands our attention, God wants to redirect us back to Him as our source of love. He can fill us up like nothing this world can ever give.
***If you are looking to gain a deeper understanding of God’s love for you, I invite you to join the 10 Day Love Challenge! Click HERE for more details!