3 Amazing Qualities to Look for in a Good Friend
Have ever been stuck in the mud?
When I was younger we would go “muddin”.
We’d take cars, jeeps, any kind of vehicle available and go out to a vacant field where we could ride through the muddy terrain.
Although it was a blast, someone always got stuck.
And the thing about mud is….once you’re stuck, you need someone to pull you out.
You can try pressing the accelerator to get yourself out, but that results in spinning your wheels and digging further into the mud.
Life can be like that sometimes, can’t it?
We get stuck in a situation or in a mindset, and rather than reaching out to someone else, we start spinning our wheels and digging ourselves deeper.
The beauty of friendships, good friendships, is that we always have someone waiting with a hitch to pull us out when we get stuck.
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Not too long ago, I became overwhelmed by the amount of responsibility I was carrying. In addition to traveling a lot, I had been overloading myself with projects and activities for the kids.
It all became a bit much and I began to recluse.
That’s what I do when I get overwhelmed, I begin to isolate.
I don’t mean taking a step back to rest, I actually close people off and shut down socially.
Definitely not a healthy reaction.
Thank God I have friends who know me well enough to recognize when I’m spiraling.
A dear friend of mine began to recognize my inward retreat.
Rather than hold back from hurting my feelings, she risked the friendship and came to me in concern.
She could see I was overdoing it.
She saw the exhaustion, the anxiousness, and the heaviness that was weighing on me and she expressed those things to me.
What she didn’t know, was that God was speaking these same things to me in detail. He had laid out His concerns for me and began addressing each one in a loving way.
My friend’s words were confirmation of the changes I needed to make.
Since that time, I’ve thought about the kind of friend I want and the kind I want to be.
Join me over at Milk and Honey Faith, where I share 3 amazing qualities that I look for in a good friend!
